Rumours

I know a little about them and the effect that they have on people.

Six years ago when I started dating Sean....well let me start farther back. In High School, Sean had this one friend and the 2 of them were pretty inseperable. Now let's fast forward a few years, this friend got married and the twosome became a threesome. All of a sudden things change...normal right? One would think. This couple tried to keep Sean down..ok that's my opinion, but judging from what they did I would say this is a valid opinion.

Ok back to 6 years ago, Sean and I started dating and this couple started spreading rumours about me and how I was doing all these things to Sean and was stopping him from having a relationship with his daughter. Well, Sean didn't listen to them and asked me to marry him, the rumours then got worse and all of a sudden I was no good for him and he should call off his wedding because I was wrecking his relationship with his daughter. According to this couple (now remember they were good "friends" and I thought one was a friend of mine)I had forced him (now if you know Sean you know how riduculous that is since no one can force him to do anything)to do a bunch of things (I won't go into detail as that is not my point in this post).
The wedding day came closer and these "friends" choose to be somewhere else then at the wedding of a very good friend. Which was fine by me since after all that was said about me I really didn't want them there anyway. But it wasn't just about me it was about Sean too and he wanted them there, so for him I was upset by that.
Their friendship was never the same after that and then all of a sudden it seemed to end I never knew why at the time, and have since come to find out (from Sean) why it ended. I won't go into detail about it but the couple started spreading rumours about Sean and something that he supposedly did, but like I said if you KNOW Sean you would know how outrageous that accusation is.
Now my point is that the talk has since died down, but the effect that it has had on Sean is long lasting. He still is upset about it today and I know that he wishes that it never happened. But since we can't go back in time we have to live with the far reaching effects of such hurtful talk.
This action has not just hurt one friendship, it has ended a few others because these other "friends" choose to believe this other "friend" instead of having the nerve to go to Sean and find out what really happened form his mouth and not the rumours that were going around.

Now to the real point of all that....I have an old friend who is going thru something right now. I don't know much of the details, but it is not my place to judge or say things out of turn. If I were to have any questions about what is going on then my responsibility is to ask her about it and not listen to what is being said by other. Isn't that what friendship is all about anyway...being responsible for our actions and not saying things that hurt and destroy?
Rumours hurt and destroy friendships and no matter what people do later, you may just not be able to repair that damage.